The environment I grew up in didn’t feel warm and loving. It seemed that more energy was put into punishing a mistake than teaching how

There is a blog I previously wrote on Grooming behaviours. I created a webinar on Grooming and have now written a book on the topic.

Perhaps you’ve heard the term scapegoat or scapegoating before.   After learning more about it — and from personal experience — I’m sharing what I

Forgiveness and letting go is a hard pill to swallow for nearly all childhood trauma survivors. When this topic is broached too early in the

Before we get started 😊 —Let’s be clear on the meaning of various words.   Siblings are identified as full siblings, half-siblings, step-siblings, foster siblings,

Why do I blog? Well, the short answer is because it is part of what I need to do to heal from childhood trauma. Telling

As I follow my trauma recovery journey I’ve come to see that I had control issues with certain people, and I think it showed up

Am I broken? Childhood trauma survivors usually wonder this because they feel so shattered from the pain they endure(d). This pain is so overwhelming that

Breaking Free!   You know that brand new skin that shows up after the scab comes off? The skin that is tender still, is pink, and

What is my worth? This is a HARD question. And for a childhood trauma survivor it can shut you down, completely, just contemplating it.  Why?

What is Normal for you? One thing that has become clear as I continue in my education and trauma recovery coaching is that only after

Time to say Goodbye   For the last few months – since the middle of May – LOSS as been camped at my doorstep.  

Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled,

Where am I in June 2022?   Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s

I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed

To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations.  

Thought about the word Home today, as I was walking around a bird sanctuary. What feelings, emotions and thoughts come to mind when you hear

Looking out my living room window I see tree branches moving, I hear the wind blowing against my home, I see rain drops against the

SEPTEMBER 2021 LOOKING BACK today I can see how far I have come as now I am three years into my full-on trauma recovery.   

Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially,

Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly

This means to hold in high regard or esteem, admiration given by others Boundaries are all wrapped up in respect, respect for self first and

As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is

After hearing  Brene’s podcast with Harriet Lerner on Apologizing I was reminded of some important truths: Those who’ve done the most damage often are the

Why is my memory not working right? Lab tests have shown that when trauma happens, the frontal lobe shuts down, including the region necessary to

How familiar are you with the topic of Spiritual Abuse, Emotional Abandonment and Child Abuse? I often have heard that child abuse is Spiritual Abuse

Have you heard of CD? Are you aware of What it is? Have you seen it in action in yourself? In others? What can you

IN APRIL 2020, I was into my 20th month of full-on healing from being retraumatized by the same abuser who sexually assaulted me when I

Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly

As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is

A few days ago, I woke up with a couple of things swirling in my head. Some of which involved what I learned in my