What I’ve
Learned.

Survivors of childhood trauma often struggle with the confusion stemming from a lack of boundaries and respect for their bodies, which is a significant challenge…

Have you ever felt the sting of a double standard — where someone expects grace, understanding, or respect from you, but offers little of it…

This image holds a powerful reminder of how our perceptions can be misleading. It’s a photo of rocks that, from a particular angle, appear as…

Discrediting a person is a common behaviour from someone who feels afraid, shameful, or jealous. Sometimes it comes from sheer ignorance. To those who receive…

I feel sorry for those who don’t understand the impact of interpersonal trauma, which is what childhood trauma is. Doing the hard work at figuring…

If we consider ourselves amongst those who empathize, respect and dignify others, we interact with others with an underlying assumption that those we cross paths…

Why did you let it happen? In the past this question was either thought of or asked of one who survived sexual assault or sexual…

Why don’t you just pray about it? ** Possible Trigger Warning The quick reply I’d give is: What makes you think I don’t?…

Most of us would shudder to ever think that we would enable a predator or an abuser to abuse a child. To enable is defined…

Grooming has been talked about and related to child sexual abuse a lot recently. Especially when it is done by those in positions of authority…

I’m not talking about transcendental meditation or any other type of meditation that involves anything hokey or Woo Woo type of stuff. Mindful Mediation is…

When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally as a child we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that we have…

Did you grow up in a family where it was said or implied that ‘what happens in this house stays in this house’? Or perhaps,…

Childhood trauma often includes Emotional Neglect aka Emotional Abandonment. Emotional neglect is extremely painful for it sends the message that our feelings, opinions, needs and…

Silence – that is the biggest thing any perpetrator or abuser wants. Silence at any cost, no matter what. Silence ONLY benefits the perpetrator,…

Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially,…

When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally in childhood we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that remain inside of…

Looking back, I am beginning to think I’ve lived pretty much the past 50+ years in various forms of dissociation. It’s amazing really, how the…

Have you heard of Cognitive Dissonance? Are you aware of what it is? Have you seen it in action in yourself? In others? What can…

After hearing Brené’s podcast with Harriet Lerner on Apologizing I was reminded of some important truths: Those who’ve done the most damage often is the…

UNCODITIONAL LOVE – Previously I’ve shared on FB my aha moment of what *belonging to me* now means. That realization was monumental and huge leap…