Grooming has been talked about and related to child sexual abuse a lot recently. Especially when it is done by those in positions of authority and trust and how they can twist what they’re doing around to make it *seem* perfectly okay and justified. Larry Nassar comes to mind when I make this statement. Yet […]
HOME – DECEMBER 30, 2021
Thought about the word Home today, as I was walking around a bird sanctuary. What feelings, emotions and thoughts come to mind when you hear the word, Home? For me there is a sense of wholeness, peace, security, safety, calm, and contentment. It hasn’t always been this way. Because of being traumatized as a child, […]
CHANGE
Looking out my living room window I see tree branches moving, I hear the wind blowing against my home, I see rain drops against the window, I see leaves fluttering by carried by the wind. These are signs of a storm and evidence of change. This is proof that autumn has arrived here on the […]
FMS – FALSE MEMORY SYNDROME – Dec 16, 2021
FMS began its inception in the late 1980’s and by 1992 there was a foundation called FMSF. Founded by the parents of Jennifer Freyd, whose father, Peter, was accused by Jennifer’s husband, of sexually abusing Jennifer as a child. Peter and his wife, Pamela, went on the all out attack against their daughter taking her […]
Where I am in Sep 2021
SEPTEMBER 2021 LOOKING BACK today I can see how far I have come as now I am three years into my full-on trauma recovery. Here I’ll share with you where I am today. I am able to notice my nervous system sensitivity and adjust my schedule accordingly without the guilt and shame that used […]
MINDFUL MEDITATION
I’m not talking about transcendental meditation or any other type of meditation that involves anything hokey or Woo Woo type of stuff. Mindful Mediation is about teaching your brain and your body to reconnect. As Child Trauma survivors, we had to learn how to ignore or shelve away the awful emotions and feelings we had. […]
TRANSFORMING TRAVESTY INTO TRIUMPH
Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially, relationally, professionally? Have you hit a block somewhere and can’t seem to get past it? Are you finding that you are overly sensitive to criticism? Are you noticing that you […]
WHERE DOES SHAME COME FROM
When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally as a child we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that we have inside of us. At such a young age, our brains are still developing so we are unable to comprehend that we are being coerced, manipulated, shamed, dominated or groomed or […]
FORGIVENESS – SELF-FORGIVENESS
Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly helps lessen the shame, blame, guilt that gets assimilated as a truth pertaining to one’s worthiness, lovableness and amount of shame. Yet, this isn’t a truth at all, is it? […]
Respect and Boundaries
This means to hold in high regard or esteem, admiration given by others Boundaries are all wrapped up in respect, respect for self first and then for others. After enduring CSA [childhood sexual abuse] at an early age, obviously I felt was something ‘off but couldn’t quite put a finger on what “it” is. I […]