What is Normal for you? One thing that has become clear as I continue in my education and trauma recovery coaching is that only after an individual decides to begin healing were they able to face the facts that their childhood was worse than thought. In fact, many start off the bat stating that they’ve […]
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SAYING GOODBYE – AUG 8 2022
Time to say Goodbye For the last few months – since the middle of May – LOSS as been camped at my doorstep. It was then that we decided to sell our little home. This decision wasn’t taken lightly. It was to be our forever home. When we moved in, we told ourselves […]
A LETTER OF SELF COMPASSION – YOU DESERVED BETTER – August 3 2022
Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled, loved, and treated like you have value and appreciation. You deserved to feel unconditional love, to feel accepted, to be acknowledged, to feel adored, to feel appreciated, to experience healthy […]
SIBLING SEXUAL ABUSE – WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? JULY 11, 2022
Why did you let it happen? In the past this question was either thought of or asked of one who survived sexual assault or sexual abuse. Perhaps the victim/survivor may have even asked themself the same question. Now it is offensive. It comes from a victim-shaming and victim-blaming mindset. Fortunately, society has come a long […]
PERSONAL GROWTH – SHAME & ACCOUNTABILITY – JUNE 1 2022
Where am I in June 2022? Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s like I was a different person then. Still, I remember the emotional pain and all the thoughts and feelings experienced. For example, I recall the frustration because I felt silenced […]
THERE IS TOO MUCH TO BE – MAY 18 2022
I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts are dealing with the same burdens: There is too much to do There is too much to decide There is too much to *be* By the last bullet I […]
WHY DON’T YOU JUST PRAY ABOUT IT? May 1, 2022
Why don’t you just pray about it? ** Possible Trigger Warning The quick reply I’d give is: What makes you think I don’t? The number of times this question is asked by persons of faith to survivors of child abuse [childhood trauma] is impossible to count. While those who ask this question […]
ENABLING – MARCH 20, 2022
Most of us would shudder to ever think that we would enable a predator or an abuser to abuse a child. To enable is defined as: To provide the means or opportunity; to make possible, practical, or easy; to cause to operate To give legal power, capacity, or sanction to With this definition would you […]
DANGLING – MAY 8, 2022
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed how this impacts your nervous system? This is a recent epiphany for me – today in fact. Left Dangling – As a childhood trauma survivor I’ve experienced this on different […]
Is Trauma Recovery Coaching Right for YOU?
To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations. Therapy is a necessary component to trauma recovery. Like any serious injury one goes to hospital or trauma centre to make sure the severe injuries are addressed first. Likewise with […]