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The environment I grew up in didn’t feel warm and loving. It seemed that more energy was put into punishing a mistake than teaching how to do things better or think through a problem to make wise decisions. I thought that punishment was discipline, but, this is an untruth. Discipline involves teaching, educating, explaining, and […]

There is a blog I previously wrote on Grooming behaviours. I created a webinar on Grooming and have now written a book on the topic. The book is entitled, Identifying The Wolf, Shedding Light on the Grooming Behaviours of Sexual Predators. With my own healing journey, I came to realize that there isn’t a book […]

Perhaps you’ve heard the term scapegoat or scapegoating before.   After learning more about it — and from personal experience — I’m sharing what I found.   When it comes to family dynamics, scapegoating is a form of emotional abuse. A scapegoat is a person who is blamed or punished for the family issues/problems. Being the scapegoat […]

Forgiveness and letting go is a hard pill to swallow for nearly all childhood trauma survivors. When this topic is broached too early in the healing process, it can cause a trauma response, terror, tears, fighting, fleeing, or shut down.    Let’s face it, there is more pressure put upon the victims who are at […]

Before we get started 😊 —Let’s be clear on the meaning of various words.   Siblings are identified as full siblings, half-siblings, step-siblings, foster siblings, cousins, and anyone who lives with or is an integral part of the family of origin.     Abuse is defined as cruel or violent treatment.   WHO’s (World Health Organization) […]

Why do I blog? Well, the short answer is because it is part of what I need to do to heal from childhood trauma. Telling is healing.  There is also a need to use my voice. Not sure how, but I got the message in my life that what I have to say is not […]

As I follow my trauma recovery journey I’ve come to see that I had control issues with certain people, and I think it showed up a lot in raising my sons.   I was scared nearly all the time. Not long after I was pregnant with my second son, my husband became unemployed. We had […]

Am I broken? Childhood trauma survivors usually wonder this because they feel so shattered from the pain they endure(d). This pain is so overwhelming that to exist they must disconnect from it to carry on with life. As a result, they feel like they don’t belong anywhere; they feel lost and alone; they feel unsafe, […]

What is my worth? This is a HARD question. And for a childhood trauma survivor it can shut you down, completely, just contemplating it.  Why? Because we don’t see nor feel that we have any worth. We learned through experiences – a look, a hit, words, sighs, eye rolling, tattling, assaults, etc., that we are […]