When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally in childhood we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that remain inside of us. At such a young age, our brains are still developing so we are unable to comprehend that we are being coerced, manipulated, shamed, dominated or groomed or being used […]
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SELF-FORGIVENESS, MARCH 23, 2021
Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly helps lessen the shame, blame, guilt that gets assimilated as a truth pertaining to one’s worthiness, lovableness and amount of shame. Yet, this isn’t a truth at all, is it? […]
IS IT GASLIGHTING OR EMOTIONAL ABUSE? JANUARY 20, 2021
As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is done with the intent to create confusion and self doubt so the gaslighter can gain power or mastery over another, wielding power and control. Basically, what this means is that […]
Voice and Choice – September 28, 2020
A few days ago, I woke up with a couple of things swirling in my head. Some of which involved what I learned in my TR Coaching course- How we as coaches want to help our clients see that they have Voice and Choice. So… Voice and Choice… hmmmm. …. Then I thought, “How do […]
Dissociation – September 1, 2020
Looking back, I am beginning to think I’ve lived pretty much the past 50+ years in various forms of dissociation. It’s amazing really, how the body and brain work so that I was able to grow up and accomplish all that I did while often being disconnected to my feelings and without a deep awareness […]
COGNITIVE DISSONANCE, MAY 15, 2020
Have you heard of Cognitive Dissonance? Are you aware of what it is? Have you seen it in action in yourself? In others? What can you do when you are struggling with this yourself? How can you help yourself when seeing this in others? In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance occurs when a person […]
APOLOGIES MAY 9 2020
After hearing Brené’s podcast with Harriet Lerner on Apologizing I was reminded of some important truths: Those who’ve done the most damage often is the least able to apologize. Those who do a lot of harm do so because they come from a place of their own deep shame. The non-apologizers walk along a tight […]
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE – Apr 23, 2020
UNCODITIONAL LOVE – Previously I’ve shared on FB my aha moment of what *belonging to me* now means. That realization was monumental and huge leap in my trauma recovery journey. This opening door allowed me to experience something new. Now there is the ability to give myself unconditional love. If we’ve never experienced unconditional […]