Why did you let it happen? In the past this question was either thought of or asked of one who survived sexual assault or sexual abuse. Perhaps the victim/survivor may have even asked themself the same question. Now it is offensive. It comes from a victim-shaming and victim-blaming mindset. Fortunately, society has come a long […]
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PERSONAL GROWTH – SHAME & ACCOUNTABILITY – JUNE 1 2022
Where am I in June 2022? Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s like I was a different person then. Still, I remember the emotional pain and all the thoughts and feelings experienced. For example, I recall the frustration because I felt silenced […]
THERE IS TOO MUCH TO BE – MAY 18 2022
I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts are dealing with the same burdens: There is too much to do There is too much to decide There is too much to *be* By the last bullet I […]
WHY DON’T YOU JUST PRAY ABOUT IT? May 1, 2022
Why don’t you just pray about it? ** Possible Trigger Warning The quick reply I’d give is: What makes you think I don’t? The number of times this question is asked by persons of faith to survivors of child abuse [childhood trauma] is impossible to count. While those who ask this question […]
ENABLING – MARCH 20, 2022
Most of us would shudder to ever think that we would enable a predator or an abuser to abuse a child. To enable is defined as: To provide the means or opportunity; to make possible, practical, or easy; to cause to operate To give legal power, capacity, or sanction to With this definition would you […]
DANGLING – MAY 8, 2022
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed how this impacts your nervous system? This is a recent epiphany for me – today in fact. Left Dangling – As a childhood trauma survivor I’ve experienced this on different […]
Is Trauma Recovery Coaching Right for YOU?
To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations. Therapy is a necessary component to trauma recovery. Like any serious injury one goes to hospital or trauma centre to make sure the severe injuries are addressed first. Likewise with […]
THE FOUR ASPECTS OF GROOMING
Grooming has been talked about and related to child sexual abuse a lot recently. Especially when it is done by those in positions of authority and trust and how they can twist what they’re doing around to make it *seem* perfectly okay and justified. Larry Nassar comes to mind when I make this statement. Yet […]
HOME – DECEMBER 30, 2021
Thought about the word Home today, as I was walking around a bird sanctuary. What feelings, emotions and thoughts come to mind when you hear the word, Home? For me there is a sense of wholeness, peace, security, safety, calm, and contentment. It hasn’t always been this way. Because of being traumatized as a child, […]
CHANGE
Looking out my living room window I see tree branches moving, I hear the wind blowing against my home, I see rain drops against the window, I see leaves fluttering by carried by the wind. These are signs of a storm and evidence of change. This is proof that autumn has arrived here on the […]