Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled, loved, and treated like you have value and appreciation. You deserved to feel unconditional love, to feel accepted, to be acknowledged, to feel adored, to feel appreciated, to experience healthy […]
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SIBLING SEXUAL ABUSE – WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? JULY 11, 2022
Why did you let it happen? In the past this question was either thought of or asked of one who survived sexual assault or sexual abuse. Perhaps the victim/survivor may have even asked themself the same question. Now it is offensive. It comes from a victim-shaming and victim-blaming mindset. Fortunately, society has come a long […]
PERSONAL GROWTH – SHAME & ACCOUNTABILITY – JUNE 1 2022
Where am I in June 2022? Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s like I was a different person then. Still, I remember the emotional pain and all the thoughts and feelings experienced. For example, I recall the frustration because I felt silenced […]
THERE IS TOO MUCH TO BE – MAY 18 2022
I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts are dealing with the same burdens: There is too much to do There is too much to decide There is too much to *be* By the last bullet I […]
WHY DON’T YOU JUST PRAY ABOUT IT? May 1, 2022
Why don’t you just pray about it? ** Possible Trigger Warning The quick reply I’d give is: What makes you think I don’t? The number of times this question is asked by persons of faith to survivors of child abuse [childhood trauma] is impossible to count. While those who ask this question […]
My Experience With Sibling Abuse Updated Aug 31 2025 – When the Danger Is in the House
Throughout my teen years and early adulthood, I carried a fragmented memory—something that happened when I was about four or five, something I didn’t have language for at the time. It involved a sibling. It lived in my body before it had words. Later, when I finally learned the term molestation, that memory clicked into […]
ENABLING – MARCH 20, 2022
Most of us would shudder to ever think that we would enable a predator or an abuser to abuse a child. To enable is defined as: To provide the means or opportunity; to make possible, practical, or easy; to cause to operate To give legal power, capacity, or sanction to With this definition would you […]
DANGLING – MAY 8, 2022
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed how this impacts your nervous system? This is a recent epiphany for me – today in fact. Left Dangling – As a childhood trauma survivor I’ve experienced this on different […]
Is Trauma Recovery Coaching Right for YOU?
To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations. Therapy is a necessary component to trauma recovery. Like any serious injury one goes to hospital or trauma centre to make sure the severe injuries are addressed first. Likewise with […]
THE FOUR ASPECTS OF GROOMING
Grooming has been talked about and related to child sexual abuse a lot recently. Especially when it is done by those in positions of authority and trust and how they can twist what they’re doing around to make it *seem* perfectly okay and justified. Larry Nassar comes to mind when I make this statement. Yet […]