Childhood trauma often includes Emotional Neglect aka Emotional Abandonment. Emotional neglect is extremely painful for it sends the message that our feelings, opinions, needs and wants don’t matter. When there is zero to little communication on how we feel about what is happening, even if its about school or friendships, family dynamics, etc, if we […]
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Cognitive Dissonance – MAY 15 2020
Have you heard of CD? Are you aware of What it is? Have you seen it in action in yourself? In others? What can you do when you are struggling with this yourself? How can you help yourself when seeing this in others? In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance occurs when a person holds […]
20 MONTHS INTO MY HEALING JOURNEY – MAY 1 2022
IN APRIL 2020, I was into my 20th month of full-on healing from being retraumatized by the same abuser who sexually assaulted me when I was 4 years old. In looking back over the years, 27 to be exact, I have been addressing my memories of the sexual abuse off and on. And so, this […]
SILENCE
Silence – that is the biggest thing any perpetrator or abuser wants.  Silence at any cost, no matter what. Silence ONLY benefits the perpetrator, the abuser. Silence NEVER helps the victim to feel empowered.  OR silence results after the child tells a parent and the parent doesn’t believe them. Again, silence only helps the […]
FEELING UNWORTHY – IMPOSTER SYNDROME, SEPTEMBER 20 2021
Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially, relationally, professionally? Have you hit a block somewhere and can’t seem to get past it? Are you finding that you are overly sensitive to criticism? Are you noticing that you […]
WHERE DOES SHAME COME FROM – APRIL 20, 2021
When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally in childhood we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that remain inside of us. At such a young age, our brains are still developing so we are unable to comprehend that we are being coerced, manipulated, shamed, dominated or groomed or being used […]
SELF-FORGIVENESS, MARCH 23, 2021
Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly helps lessen the shame, blame, guilt that gets assimilated as a truth pertaining to one’s worthiness, lovableness and amount of shame. Yet, this isn’t a truth at all, is it? […]
IS IT GASLIGHTING OR EMOTIONAL ABUSE? JANUARY 20, 2021
As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is done with the intent to create confusion and self doubt so the gaslighter can gain power or mastery over another, wielding power and control. Basically, what this means is that […]
Voice and Choice – September 28, 2020
A few days ago, I woke up with a couple of things swirling in my head. Some of which involved what I learned in my TR Coaching course- How we as coaches want to help our clients see that they have Voice and Choice. So… Voice and Choice… hmmmm. …. Then I thought, “How do […]
Dissociation – September 1, 2020
Looking back, I am beginning to think I’ve lived pretty much the past 50+ years in various forms of dissociation. It’s amazing really, how the body and brain work so that I was able to grow up and accomplish all that I did while often being disconnected to my feelings and without a deep awareness […]