Category: Personal Healing Journey

Breaking Free!   You know that brand new skin that shows up after the scab comes off? The skin that is tender still, is pink, and hasn’t been exposed to light and life? Well, this is how I feel right now. I feel fresh, yet tender. During these last couple of months, I have been shedding […]

What is my worth? This is a HARD question. And for a childhood trauma survivor it can shut you down, completely, just contemplating it.  Why? Because we don’t see nor feel that we have any worth. We learned through experiences – a look, a hit, words, sighs, eye rolling, tattling, assaults, etc., that we are […]

What is Normal for you? One thing that has become clear as I continue in my education and trauma recovery coaching is that only after an individual decides to begin healing were they able to face the facts that their childhood was worse than thought. In fact, many start off the bat stating that they’ve […]

Time to say Goodbye   For the last few months – since the middle of May – LOSS as been camped at my doorstep.   It was then that we decided to sell our little home. This decision wasn’t taken lightly. It was to be our forever home. When we moved in, we told ourselves […]

Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled, loved, and treated like you have value and appreciation. You deserved to feel unconditional love, to feel accepted, to be acknowledged, to feel adored, to feel appreciated, to experience healthy […]

Where am I in June 2022?   Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s like I was a different person then. Still, I remember the emotional pain and all the thoughts and feelings experienced. For example, I recall the frustration because I felt silenced […]

I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts are dealing with the same burdens: There is too much to do There is too much to decide There is too much to *be*   By the last bullet I […]

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed how this impacts your nervous system? This is a recent epiphany for me – today in fact. Left Dangling – As a childhood trauma survivor I’ve experienced this on different […]

To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations.   Therapy is a necessary component to trauma recovery. Like any serious injury one goes to hospital or trauma centre to make sure the severe injuries are addressed first. Likewise with […]

Thought about the word Home today, as I was walking around a bird sanctuary. What feelings, emotions and thoughts come to mind when you hear the word, Home? For me there is a sense of wholeness, peace, security, safety, calm, and contentment. It hasn’t always been this way. Because of being traumatized as a child, […]