Category: Personal Healing Journey

SEPTEMBER 2021 LOOKING BACK today I can see how far I have come as now I am three years into my full-on trauma recovery.    Here I’ll share with you where I am today. I am able to notice my nervous system sensitivity and adjust my schedule accordingly without the guilt and shame that used […]

Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially, relationally, professionally? Have you hit a block somewhere and can’t seem to get past it? Are you finding that you are overly sensitive to criticism? Are you noticing that you […]

Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly helps lessen the shame, blame, guilt that gets assimilated as a truth pertaining to one’s worthiness, lovableness and amount of shame. Yet, this isn’t a truth at all, is it? […]

This means to hold in high regard or esteem, admiration given by others Boundaries are all wrapped up in respect, respect for self first and then for others. After enduring CSA [childhood sexual abuse] at an early age, obviously I felt was something ‘off but couldn’t quite put a finger on what “it” is. I […]

As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is done with the intent to create confusion and self doubt so the gaslighter can gain power or mastery over another, with the intent to wield power and control. Basically, what […]

After hearing  Brene’s podcast with Harriet Lerner on Apologizing I was reminded of some important truths: Those who’ve done the most damage often are the least able to apologize. Those who do a lot of harm do so because they come from a place of their own deep shame. The non-apologizers walk along a tight […]

Why is my memory not working right? Lab tests have shown that when trauma happens, the frontal lobe shuts down, including the region necessary to put feelings into words, the region that creates a sense of location in time, and the thalamus, which integrates the raw data of incoming sensations. Under ordinary conditions the rational […]

How familiar are you with the topic of Spiritual Abuse, Emotional Abandonment and Child Abuse? I often have heard that child abuse is Spiritual Abuse and while managing to *see how having an adult caregiver is cold and distant can impact a child’s relationship with God I wasn’t able to see beyond that. Here is […]

Have you heard of CD? Are you aware of What it is? Have you seen it in action in yourself? In others? What can you do when you are struggling with this yourself? How can you help yourself when seeing this in others? In the field of psychology, cognitive dissonance occurs when a person holds […]

IN APRIL 2020, I was into my 20th month of full-on healing from being retraumatized by the same abuser who sexually assaulted me when I was 4 years old. In looking back over the years, 27 to be exact, I have been addressing my memories of the sexual abuse off and on. And so, this […]