Category: Personal Healing Journey

Six years ago I began the hardest season of my life — of working through my childhood trauma. In the early stages of the trauma healing process I learned what I could about the impact of various abuses so that I understood the nuances of victimhood that overpowered my life. I shared things as I […]

The environment I grew up in didn’t feel warm and loving. It seemed that more energy was put into punishing a mistake than teaching how to do things better or think through a problem to make wise decisions. I thought that punishment was discipline, but, this is an untruth. Discipline involves teaching, educating, explaining, and […]

There is a blog I previously wrote on Grooming behaviours. I created a webinar on Grooming and have now written a book on the topic. The book is entitled, Identifying The Wolf, Shedding Light on the Grooming Behaviours of Sexual Predators. With my own healing journey, I came to realize that there isn’t a book […]

Perhaps you’ve heard the term scapegoat or scapegoating before.   After learning more about it — and from personal experience — I’m sharing what I found.   When it comes to family dynamics, scapegoating is a form of emotional abuse. A scapegoat is a person who is blamed or punished for the family issues/problems. Being the scapegoat […]

Forgiveness and letting go is a hard pill to swallow for nearly all childhood trauma survivors. When this topic is broached too early in the healing process, it can cause a trauma response, terror, tears, fighting, fleeing, or shut down.    Let’s face it, there is more pressure put upon the victims who are at […]

Before we get started 😊 —Let’s be clear on the meaning of various words.   Siblings are identified as full siblings, half-siblings, step-siblings, foster siblings, cousins, and anyone who lives with or is an integral part of the family of origin.     Abuse is defined as cruel or violent treatment.   WHO’s (World Health Organization) […]

Why do I blog? Well, the short answer is because it is part of what I need to do to heal from childhood trauma. Telling is healing.  There is also a need to use my voice. Not sure how, but I got the message in my life that what I have to say is not […]

As I follow my trauma recovery journey I’ve come to see that I had control issues with certain people, and I think it showed up a lot in raising my sons.   I was scared nearly all the time. Not long after I was pregnant with my second son, my husband became unemployed. We had […]