Category: What I’ve Learned

Double Standards and Subtle Narcissism

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Have you ever felt the sting of a double standard — where someone expects grace, understanding, or respect from you, but offers little of it in return?  Double standards don’t build connection — they create confusion, resentment, and distance. They often show up in subtle, relational ways that are hard to name but deeply felt.  […]

Illusions in Trauma Recovery – November 6, 2024

This image holds a powerful reminder of how our perceptions can be misleading. It’s a photo of rocks that, from a particular angle, appear as a person quietly sitting in water, reading a book. The visual illusion mirrors the inner landscape of trauma recovery: assumptions about appearances can lead to profound misunderstandings.   When I […]

DISCREDIT – September 9, 2024

Discrediting a person is a common behaviour from someone who feels afraid, shameful, or jealous. Sometimes it comes from sheer ignorance. To those who receive the misjudgment (discrediting) know what is being said is not true and trust that eventually the truth will come out and if the accused is innocent, they’ll be exonerated. Childhood […]

SIBLING SEXUAL ABUSE – WHAT ELSE IS GOING ON? JULY 11, 2022

Why did you let it happen? In the past this question was either thought of or asked of one who survived sexual assault or sexual abuse. Perhaps the victim/survivor may have even asked themself the same question. Now it is offensive. It comes from a victim-shaming and victim-blaming mindset. Fortunately, society has come a long […]

MINDFUL MEDITATION

I’m not talking about transcendental meditation or any other type of meditation that involves anything hokey or Woo Woo type of stuff. Mindful Mediation is about teaching your brain and your body to reconnect. As Child Trauma survivors, we had to learn how to ignore or shelve away the awful emotions and feelings we had. […]

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