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Before we get started 😊 —Let’s be clear on the meaning of various words.   Siblings are identified as full siblings, half-siblings, step-siblings, foster siblings, cousins, and anyone who lives with or is an integral part of the family of origin.     Abuse is defined as cruel or violent treatment.   WHO’s (World Health Organization) […]

Why do I blog? Well, the short answer is because it is part of what I need to do to heal from childhood trauma. Telling is healing.  There is also a need to use my voice. Not sure how, but I got the message in my life that what I have to say is not […]

As I follow my trauma recovery journey I’ve come to see that I had control issues with certain people, and I think it showed up a lot in raising my sons.   I was scared nearly all the time. Not long after I was pregnant with my second son, my husband became unemployed. We had […]

Am I broken? Childhood trauma survivors usually wonder this because they feel so shattered from the pain they endure(d). This pain is so overwhelming that to exist they must disconnect from it to carry on with life. As a result, they feel like they don’t belong anywhere; they feel lost and alone; they feel unsafe, […]

What is my worth? This is a HARD question. And for a childhood trauma survivor it can shut you down, completely, just contemplating it.  Why? Because we don’t see nor feel that we have any worth. We learned through experiences – a look, a hit, words, sighs, eye rolling, tattling, assaults, etc., that we are […]

What is Normal for you? One thing that has become clear as I continue in my education and trauma recovery coaching is that only after an individual decides to begin healing were they able to face the facts that their childhood was worse than thought. In fact, many start off the bat stating that they’ve […]

Time to say Goodbye   For the last few months – since the middle of May – LOSS as been camped at my doorstep.   It was then that we decided to sell our little home. This decision wasn’t taken lightly. It was to be our forever home. When we moved in, we told ourselves […]

Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled, loved, and treated like you have value and appreciation. You deserved to feel unconditional love, to feel accepted, to be acknowledged, to feel adored, to feel appreciated, to experience healthy […]

Where am I in June 2022?   Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s like I was a different person then. Still, I remember the emotional pain and all the thoughts and feelings experienced. For example, I recall the frustration because I felt silenced […]