Why don’t you just pray about it?   ** Possible Trigger Warning     The quick reply I’d give is: What makes you think I don’t?

SEPTEMBER 2021 LOOKING BACK today I can see how far I have come as now I am three years into my full-on trauma recovery.   

When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally as a child we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that we have

What is Normal for you? One thing that has become clear as I continue in my education and trauma recovery coaching is that only after

What is my worth? This is a HARD question. And for a childhood trauma survivor it can shut you down, completely, just contemplating it.  Why?

A few days ago, I woke up with a couple of things swirling in my head. Some of which involved what I learned in my

Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially,

I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts

Grooming has been talked about and related to child sexual abuse a lot recently. Especially when it is done by those in positions of authority

How familiar are you with the topic of Spiritual Abuse, Emotional Abandonment and Child Abuse? I often have heard that child abuse is Spiritual Abuse

Silence – that is the biggest thing any perpetrator or abuser wants.   Silence at any cost, no matter what.   Silence ONLY benefits the perpetrator,

Time to say Goodbye   For the last few months – since the middle of May – LOSS as been camped at my doorstep.  

This means to hold in high regard or esteem, admiration given by others Boundaries are all wrapped up in respect, respect for self first and

Where am I in June 2022?   Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s

Throughout my teen years and early adulthood I had a memory of a sexual experience from when I was around 4-5 yo, from a brother,

I’m not talking about transcendental meditation or any other type of meditation that involves anything hokey or Woo Woo type of stuff. Mindful Mediation is

Why is my memory not working right? Lab tests have shown that when trauma happens, the frontal lobe shuts down, including the region necessary to

As I follow my trauma recovery journey I’ve come to see that I had control issues with certain people, and I think it showed up

To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations.  

As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is

Thought about the word Home today, as I was walking around a bird sanctuary. What feelings, emotions and thoughts come to mind when you hear

Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly

Did you grow up in a family where it was said or implied that ‘what happens in this house stays in this house’? Or perhaps,

Most of us would shudder to ever think that we would enable a predator or an abuser to abuse a child. To enable is defined

Childhood trauma often includes Emotional Neglect aka Emotional Abandonment. Emotional neglect is extremely painful for it sends the message that our feelings, opinions, needs and

Looking back, I am beginning to think I’ve lived pretty much the past 50+ years in various forms of dissociation. It’s amazing really, how the

HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed

Have you heard of CD? Are you aware of What it is? Have you seen it in action in yourself? In others? What can you

Looking out my living room window I see tree branches moving, I hear the wind blowing against my home, I see rain drops against the

Breaking Free!   You know that brand new skin that shows up after the scab comes off? The skin that is tender still, is pink, and

After hearing  Brene’s podcast with Harriet Lerner on Apologizing I was reminded of some important truths: Those who’ve done the most damage often are the

Am I broken? Childhood trauma survivors usually wonder this because they feel so shattered from the pain they endure(d). This pain is so overwhelming that

Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled,

IN APRIL 2020, I was into my 20th month of full-on healing from being retraumatized by the same abuser who sexually assaulted me when I