WHY DON’T YOU JUST PRAY ABOUT IT? May 1, 2022
Why don’t you just pray about it? ** Possible Trigger Warning The quick reply I’d give is: What makes you think I don’t?
Where I am in Sep 2021
SEPTEMBER 2021 LOOKING BACK today I can see how far I have come as now I am three years into my full-on trauma recovery.
WHERE DOES SHAME COME FROM
When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally as a child we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that we have
What is your normal? – SEP 27, 2022
What is Normal for you? One thing that has become clear as I continue in my education and trauma recovery coaching is that only after
WHAT IS MY WORTH? September 2, 2022
What is my worth? This is a HARD question. And for a childhood trauma survivor it can shut you down, completely, just contemplating it. Why?
Voice and Choice – September 28, 2020
A few days ago, I woke up with a couple of things swirling in my head. Some of which involved what I learned in my
UNCONDITIONAL LOVE – Apr 23, 2020
UNCODITIONAL LOVE – Previously I’ve shared on FB my aha moment of what *belonging to me* now means. That realization was monumental and huge leap
TRANSFORMING TRAVESTY INTO TRIUMPH
Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially,
THERE IS TOO MUCH TO BE – MAY 18 2022
I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts
THE FOUR ASPECTS OF GROOMING
Grooming has been talked about and related to child sexual abuse a lot recently. Especially when it is done by those in positions of authority
Spiritual Abuse
How familiar are you with the topic of Spiritual Abuse, Emotional Abandonment and Child Abuse? I often have heard that child abuse is Spiritual Abuse
Silence
Silence – that is the biggest thing any perpetrator or abuser wants. Silence at any cost, no matter what. Silence ONLY benefits the perpetrator,
SAYING GOODBYE – AUG 8 2022
Time to say Goodbye For the last few months – since the middle of May – LOSS as been camped at my doorstep.
Respect and Boundaries
This means to hold in high regard or esteem, admiration given by others Boundaries are all wrapped up in respect, respect for self first and
PERSONAL GROWTH – SHAME & ACCOUNTABILITY – JUNE 1 2022
Where am I in June 2022? Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s
MY EXPERIENCE WITH SIBLING ABUSE
Throughout my teen years and early adulthood I had a memory of a sexual experience from when I was around 4-5 yo, from a brother,
Mindful Meditation
I’m not talking about transcendental meditation or any other type of meditation that involves anything hokey or Woo Woo type of stuff. Mindful Mediation is
Memories
Why is my memory not working right? Lab tests have shown that when trauma happens, the frontal lobe shuts down, including the region necessary to
KEEPING IN CONTROL – April 4, 2023
As I follow my trauma recovery journey I’ve come to see that I had control issues with certain people, and I think it showed up
Is Trauma Recovery Coaching Right for YOU?
To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations.
Is it Gaslighting or Emotional Abuse?
As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is
HOME – DECEMBER 30, 2021
Thought about the word Home today, as I was walking around a bird sanctuary. What feelings, emotions and thoughts come to mind when you hear
FORGIVENESS – SELF-FORGIVENESS
Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly
FMS – FALSE MEMORY SYNDROME – Dec 16, 2021
FMS began its inception in the late 1980’s and by 1992 there was a foundation called FMSF. Founded by the parents of Jennifer Freyd, whose
FAMILY SECRETS AND MOTTOS
Did you grow up in a family where it was said or implied that ‘what happens in this house stays in this house’? Or perhaps,
Enabling
Most of us would shudder to ever think that we would enable a predator or an abuser to abuse a child. To enable is defined
EMOTIONAL HEALING – JULY 2020
Childhood trauma often includes Emotional Neglect aka Emotional Abandonment. Emotional neglect is extremely painful for it sends the message that our feelings, opinions, needs and
Dissociation – September 1, 2020
Looking back, I am beginning to think I’ve lived pretty much the past 50+ years in various forms of dissociation. It’s amazing really, how the
DANGLING – MAY 8, 2022
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed
Cognitive Dissonance – MAY 15 2020
Have you heard of CD? Are you aware of What it is? Have you seen it in action in yourself? In others? What can you
CHANGE
Looking out my living room window I see tree branches moving, I hear the wind blowing against my home, I see rain drops against the
BREAKING FREE – JAN 23, 2023
Breaking Free! You know that brand new skin that shows up after the scab comes off? The skin that is tender still, is pink, and
Apologies
After hearing Brene’s podcast with Harriet Lerner on Apologizing I was reminded of some important truths: Those who’ve done the most damage often are the
AM I BROKEN? FEB 1, 2023
Am I broken? Childhood trauma survivors usually wonder this because they feel so shattered from the pain they endure(d). This pain is so overwhelming that
A LETTER OF SELF COMPASSION – YOU DESERVED BETTER – August 3 2022
Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled,
20 MONTHS INTO MY HEALING JOURNEY – MAY 1 2022
IN APRIL 2020, I was into my 20th month of full-on healing from being retraumatized by the same abuser who sexually assaulted me when I