BREAKING FREE – JAN 23, 2023
Breaking Free! You know that brand new skin that shows up after the scab comes off? The skin that is tender still, is pink, and
WHAT IS MY WORTH? September 2, 2022
What is my worth? This is a HARD question. And for a childhood trauma survivor it can shut you down, completely, just contemplating it. Why?
SAYING GOODBYE – AUG 8 2022
Time to say Goodbye For the last few months – since the middle of May – LOSS as been camped at my doorstep.
A LETTER OF SELF COMPASSION – YOU DESERVED BETTER – August 3 2022
Dear Me, My dear little Lisa, I am letting you know that you deserved better treatment. You deserved better. You deserved to be held, cuddled,
PERSONAL GROWTH – SHAME & ACCOUNTABILITY – JUNE 1 2022
Where am I in June 2022? Nearly 4 years into doing the really hard work of trauma recovery, this month I’m looking back. It’s
THERE IS TOO MUCH TO BE – MAY 18 2022
I’m starting to learn about IFS – Internal Family Systems. In looking at my childhood trauma through an IFS lens I’m realizing that many parts
WHY DON’T YOU JUST PRAY ABOUT IT? May 1, 2022
Why don’t you just pray about it? ** Possible Trigger Warning The quick reply I’d give is: What makes you think I don’t?
MY EXPERIENCE WITH SIBLING ABUSE
Throughout my teen years and early adulthood I had a memory of a sexual experience from when I was around 4-5 yo, from a brother,
DANGLING – MAY 8, 2022
HAVE YOU EVER BEEN LEFT ….. D A N G L I N G ? I have….. many times, literally and metaphorically. Have you noticed
Is Trauma Recovery Coaching Right for YOU?
To answer this question, it would be helpful to be clear on how therapy and coaching support those who’ve suffered and survived egregious violations.
HOME – DECEMBER 30, 2021
Thought about the word Home today, as I was walking around a bird sanctuary. What feelings, emotions and thoughts come to mind when you hear
CHANGE
Looking out my living room window I see tree branches moving, I hear the wind blowing against my home, I see rain drops against the
FMS – FALSE MEMORY SYNDROME – Dec 16, 2021
FMS began its inception in the late 1980’s and by 1992 there was a foundation called FMSF. Founded by the parents of Jennifer Freyd, whose
Where I am in Sep 2021
SEPTEMBER 2021 LOOKING BACK today I can see how far I have come as now I am three years into my full-on trauma recovery.
Mindful Meditation
I’m not talking about transcendental meditation or any other type of meditation that involves anything hokey or Woo Woo type of stuff. Mindful Mediation is
TRANSFORMING TRAVESTY INTO TRIUMPH
Have you reached a time in your life that certain behaviours or some mindsets aren’t quite working for you anymore? Are you noticing challenges socially,
THE FOUR ASPECTS OF GROOMING
Grooming has been talked about and related to child sexual abuse a lot recently. Especially when it is done by those in positions of authority
Silence
Silence – that is the biggest thing any perpetrator or abuser wants. Silence at any cost, no matter what. Silence ONLY benefits the perpetrator,
WHERE DOES SHAME COME FROM
When we have been abused physically, sexually, or emotionally as a child we don’t know what to do with the horrible feelings that we have
FORGIVENESS – SELF-FORGIVENESS
Awareness of what happened to us as children [the abuse and neglect] and how it impacted life from the first incident [anchor trauma] onwards truly
Respect and Boundaries
This means to hold in high regard or esteem, admiration given by others Boundaries are all wrapped up in respect, respect for self first and
Is it Gaslighting or Emotional Abuse?
As you know I’ve been reading more about Gaslighting lately and have come to learn that true Gaslighting is a type of communication that is
Apologies
After hearing Brene’s podcast with Harriet Lerner on Apologizing I was reminded of some important truths: Those who’ve done the most damage often are the
Memories
Why is my memory not working right? Lab tests have shown that when trauma happens, the frontal lobe shuts down, including the region necessary to
Spiritual Abuse
How familiar are you with the topic of Spiritual Abuse, Emotional Abandonment and Child Abuse? I often have heard that child abuse is Spiritual Abuse
Morning Mews on Dissociation
Today I woke up with a couple of things swirling in my head. Some of which involved what I learned in my TR Coaching course-
Dissociation
Looking back I can see how I’ve lived pretty much these past 50+ years in a dissociative state. It’s amazing really how the body and
Voice and Choice
A few days ago, I woke up with a couple of things swirling in my head. Some of which involved what I learned in my
FAMILY SECRETS AND MOTTOS
Did you grow up in a family where it was said or implied that ‘what happens in this house stays in this house’? Or perhaps,
Enabling
Most of us would shudder to ever think that we would enable a predator or an abuser to abuse a child. To enable is defined